Social Caring and Sharing – My Story [Video]

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Social Caring and Sharing, Dr. Don Yates Sr. Ph.D. – My Story

Using My Story to Help Increase Awareness of Internet Crimes Against Our Children

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Dr. Don ICFO

Good Day All

I am the Founder of The Internet Crime Fighters Org  (ICFO)

I Have Dusted off My Social and Caring Story

  • As part of my Campaign to Increase Internet Crime Awareness, and
  • To update some of the history related to our efforts which have led us to this campaign
  • 2010 Free WP blog closed by WP due to a scammer complaint about our report – New Blog
  • New Paid Hosting Blog blocked and labeled “Unsafe Content” by most browsers and ranking services
  • Internet Crime includes topics offensive to most such of us, such as
  • Pornography, Sex Trafficking, Child Grooming, Child Abuse, Predators, etc,
  • We moved to social reposting and marketing to offset browser blocks
  • 2016 Story below
  • 2018 Security Breach necessitating another New Blog and
  • Continued Social Posting and appeals for Social Caring and Sharing
  • 2019, July 4th Facebook, faced with privacy issues and fines changed their Comunity Standards
  • As a result, content related to previously approved content was no longer acceptable for FB
  • as unsafe, abusive content and spam posts in violation of their Comunity Standards
  • However, in FB’s zeal to block selected Post content, they have managed to close the entire Blog
  • Additionally, a so-called Facebook friend has managed to get FB to shut down two of our Blogs for
  • as unsafe, abusive content and spam posts in violation of their Comunity Standards resulting in 
  • The Blogs remaining socially offline to Facebook, including all Beware, Warnings, Scams, and Threats
  • Resulting in two New Blogs, including our 4th ICFO Blog.
  • Campaigns for Social Caring and Sharing have failed with most friends ignoring requests for Likes, Shares, and Comments
  • Less than 1.5% of FB friends help Increase Internet Crime Awareness and ignore FB Page Like Requests
  • Once again we have to shift our marketing to  Increases awareness  to include both Social Sharing and SEO with an increased cost of operations and time

Give Up, Save Time and Money – Someone has to Continue

  • You will understand my motivations and why when you read my story below
  • Too many unsupervised children online and few parents are checking their children’s mobile devices for activities

Social Caring and Sharing – ICFO Fundraiser Campaign

  • Nearly every organization, agency, and blogs such as mine are started by someone with a passion for a particular cause
  • Few run into the difficulties that we have suffered us, because
  • Their cause is more appealing to the masses, and nearly all have a fundraiser
  • Our content is free and remains free because we have been paying the bills since 2004,
  • We have resisted subscriptions or membership fees because we want to reach as many as possible
  • Further, before the shutdowns and new blogs, we were receiving adverting opportunities because we had Traffic and Ranking
  • We do not have traffic, because our FB friends are not Caring and Sharing as requested
  • We need Traffic, Visitors to help raise internet crime awareness
  • We need Traffic, Visitors to help improve our ICFO ranking, attract sponsors and advertising
  • YOU Can Help; Likes are good, Likes and Shares are Better, and Best is “Like, Share, and Comments”
  • Until we get some reasonable amount of Sponsor or Advertiser Support, we are running
  • Our Sharing and Caring- ICFO Fundraiser Campaign 
  • Your Donations would be appreciated and most welcome

Social Caring and Sharing. My Story

Warning: Content and Comments May Offend Some Readers


  • Those that have known me, and my work for years are right.
  • Ever since our original site Internet Crime Fighters Org (ICFO) got hacked and corrupted (2016),
  • I lost motivation to bear the time and cost of rebuilding ICFO.
  • Why Bother, Since So Few Care?

Procrastination Set In.

  • ICFO had lost its ranking and recognition that had been built up through the years
  • Sponsors stopped asking for advertising space; Donations were non-existent
  • Many Browsers and Ranking sites blocked or ranked our ICFO Website as Unsafe because of the Nature and Content of Internet Crime Topics
    • Sexual exploitation of children and teens
    • Child Abuse and Porn, Revenge pornography
    • Sexting and Sextortion
    • Sexual Harassment, Cyberbullying
    • Self-Harm and Suicides
    • to name just a few

A Result of Our ICFO Blockage

  • The primary way left for us to increase awareness of Internet Crime or Cyber Crime Is to post to social media and then spread the content through Social Sharing and
  • Only your closest friends are likely to, freely, share the intimacies; home life, and relationships,
  • While others may be ashamed of some event or circumstance, and still,
  • Others may be unaware of what is happening in their Business, Homelife, and Relationships
  • More importantly what is happening in their children’s lives
  • Social Sharing and Caring enables us to reach others that otherwise would have the content blocked

The Internet Crime Fighters Org (ICFO)

  • I started ICFO in September 2013 as a new Blog along with Facebook Pages and a New ICFO Group to consolidate and replace all previous efforts;
  • i.e., blogs, groups, and articles relating to Scams., Fraud and Threats dating from 2004
  • ICFO posts research and news related to all forms of Internet Crime to raise awareness of Internet risk to you, your children, families, and
  • While we serve all issues for FREE; however, the emphasis lies with our Children
  • We can only Educate and Inform; it is up to You To Pass the Information on to others
  • Despite our work and requests for help as of this posting, ICFO has managed to receive only 400 likes
  • Back in 2004, everyone wanted information; nowadays most feel overwhelmed and don’t care
  • Our groups spanned all social networks with nearly 100,000 members, only to be spammed by the group’s members
  • Since the blockage and hacking; our readership, interest, traffic numbers and ranking online have been declining rather than increasing
  • Our attempts to raise awareness, requests for sharing and caring, raise funds through sponsors, advertising, and donations all have failed
  • Total receipts for donations over the past nearly four years is a mere $5.00
  • Our Attempts to raise awareness and to raise funds through sponsors, advertising, and donations have failed; however, we must continue

Our Children and Teens Need Our Help

  • Harassment, Bullying, Self-harm and Teen Suicides continue to rise, and Apathy and Indifference to Internet Crime continues to kill our children
  • At the very time when our children need us the most; parents seem to have abdicated their parental roles to the Internet and mobile devices
  • Families have disengaged in conversation as a family unit
  • Mobile phones and devices are the new babysitters, and unfortunately, the Internet is shaping the minds and thoughts of our children and teens
  • Seniors are scammed of their retirement savings and loss of a suitable lifestyle through Investment and Dating Scams

The Daily News Informs Us

  • Children are being groomed after what they see, read and learn on the Internet
  • Children as young as five years old have unsupervised access to the dangers of the internet
  • Children as young as nine years old are watching porn and sexting
  • Predators and Pedophiles hide behind Fake Profiles grooming our children
  • Cyber harassment and bullying are increasing
  • Adding to an increase in self-harm and teen suicides
  • Apathy and Indifference to Internet Crime Continues to Kill Our Children
  • Scams are robbing our Businesses, Children, Families and our Seniors

Let’s Face It

  • For most of us, posts regarding Internet Crimes are boring and of little interest
  • Crimes against babies, children, and teens are repulsive, even sickening
  • ICFO understands that pictures and videos of a loved one, flowers, pets and beauty are easy to share
  • Many will jump at the chance to, like, love, and share with their friends who in turn re-share the post.
  • Still, others who thrive on someone else’s misery or abuse will quickly share the post which often sends the post or video
  • Education or helpful posts that should be read, liked, shared or commented are seldom passed along to friends and family
  • And as said before such posts are blocked by many browsers, parental controls, and security so those that need the information may never receive it

We Must Reverse the Trends

  • We are losing the fight
  • Our children’s safety and security online are everyone’s responsibility
  • We must stop the internet from shaping the minds of our children
  • Reassume our responsibilities as parents and concerned citizens
  • Children and teens must be continually supervised and monitored for behavior changes
  • Our Children and Friends’ Children are at risk
  • The predators and pedophiles will gladly take up grooming our children
  • Does your child have 1500 school friends?
  • How many does he or she really know?
  • As a parent, how many do you know?

Life Begins for Me, My Story

It is Hoped that the Sharing of My Story Motivates You to Action and That It Will Help Someone Who Is Lost and in Danger. Perhaps You or Someone You Know. Perhaps A Son, Daughter or Family Member That Is Reaching Reach Out, But No One Sees or Hears. Let’s Show Them That We Are Here for Them and That Suicide Is Never the Answer

  • Born in early 1939 in South Boston Massachusetts
  • Mother was from a wealthy family in Stratford. Connecticut
  • She was not married, and her pregnancy shame was shielded by her Grandmother
  • By arrangement, the hospital informed the mother that her baby was DOA
  • Mother and grandmother return to
  • My former wife found my mother through a search on the Internet
  • Imagine her shock and disbelief to find out over the phone That her baby was not “DOA” and was alive and well
  • Traveling from California to Connecticut where we for the first time in 1981
  • Some 42 Years after
  • My birth certificate’s “unknown” father was a preacher’s
  • Mother was married, with two children; a half brother and sister
  • She was dying of bone cancer and died a year later after my visit
  • The children seemed more concerned that I was there to stake my claim for a share of Mother’s inheritance; however, none was received and nor sought
  • The half-brother and sister enjoyed all the luxuries of life
  • Including a new car upon their graduation from High School
  • They enjoy a much better lifestyle than mine and perhaps yours as you will read
  • I never spoke to or heard from them again
  • I was born with cerebral palsy which made my right leg turn inward towards the  left
  • Although I was put up for adoption, there were no takers
  • There were plenty of healthy babies available
  • Remained in a children’s home under study, testing, learning to walk until about 2-3 years of age
  • From there I was put into the Massachusetts Foster Care System where my abuse
  • A system where unsupervised parents can receive a child into their home in return for a small monthly

My First Foster Home

  • Age 2, After the disability testing, the state found a foster home for me
  • Child Neglect thrived in this home for a small amount of state-funded foster care money
  • I lived in the attic where I played with spiders and
  • Naturally, I attracted a lot of flies since I do not remember ever
  • I used to pull off one of their wings and watch them go in circles
  • I only remember eating with the family, one time, where I sat at a separate table facing the wall
  • I did my toilet business outside the home under the stairs, in the heat of the Summer and the bitter cold of the Massachusetts  Winters
  • Some two years later I was removed from that home by the State who found me near death due to extreme malnutrition, so bloated that it permanently deformed my
  • I looked like one those “Care,” campaign posters of foreign country’s starving  children
  • Except, this happened here in the United States, under Massachusetts Foster Care

My Second Foster Home

  • After my rescue from my first home at age 5, I was later placed in a second foster home to recover and fatten up, which took 3 years of recovery
  • I lived in a large room with two other older boys that slept to the left of me
  • A girl about the same age was in another room down the hall across from the foster parents
  • Due to my malnutrition, I failed to develop a natural resistance to disease, so, I was bed-ridden and suffered most of popular and even some unpopular  sicknesses
  • I was so sickly and ugly that my recovery took nearly two years
  • Shortly after my arrival at the home; a man also joined us in the
  • I understood that he had been sent home from the
  • Soon my second home became the home of Sexual, Physical, and Emotional Abuse
  • It didn’t take long for him to start fondling and force himself into me as he pleased
  • Too sick and weak to stop his advances and too scared to say anything, I was his toy for all imaginable forms of sex; for a year or more
  • We never spoke of it, but the girl in another room must have also endured his visits before he came to
  • I do not recall how or why he finally left the home
  • As we grew up, we never mentioned our encounters with him
  • I continued to get healthier, stronger and worked around the  house
  • I was finally started school in the first grade at age 8, two years older than my classmates
  • Started working odd jobs to earn pocket money to buy clothes and necessities

Bullying in School and Home

  • Despite being older, I was bullied for my skeletal looks, deformed ribs, and cerebral palsy which made my right foot point to the left instead of straight
  • I looked different and didn’t walk normally
  • I had no real friends and spent my time working
  • The more I worked, the stronger I became
  • I bought my first bicycle, and it helped my legs get stronger
  • I focused on making my right foot point ahead, but still occasional kicked my left  foot
  • The school bullying stopped as I started excelling at school athletics
  • I was the fastest runner perhaps due to my age, or perhaps my motivation
  • I ran barefoot because I had no sneakers
  • The coaches want me to join them for afterschool sports, but I had to work

The Bullying Continued

  • I managed to beat the top bully with a leg hold as his friends watched
  • I started making friends since I was working and had pocket money
  • I would buy snacks for them
  • I soon stood up for others that were being bullied
  • I had a Catholic Girl Friend, and the foster mother chased and beat me
  • It seems that her Southern Baptist’s do not tolerate dancing, touching, and proximity with non-Baptist believers
  • I worked four jobs plus attended school; two before school and two after
  • My long days started at 3 am and ended at 10 pm
  • So, I wasn’t in the mood to be scolded by a teacher who wore thick glasses and
  • I walked out of school at age 16 with an 8th-grade education
  • I had thought she was scolding me but learned that she was actually scolding the boy in front of me for talking in class

Shriner’s Moto

“No Man Stands So Tall, as When He Stoops To Help a Child.”

  • I am a 32-degree member of the Masonic Order; both York and Scottish Rites
  • First Lodge member to give the Senior Deacon Lecture
  • A Shriner – however, I am unable to practice the Masonic order in Malaysia
  • But the heart to help others is still there and so

Life Begins Anew

  • Started working full time baling paper goods, making women’s shoes and packing frozen kosher My kosher chicken story is great, but maybe another time
  • After 4 or 5 foster homes, assorted jobs, and start-up businesses, I decided to join the US Marines
  • I thumbed a ride to the recruiting station, but the Marine recruiters were at  lunch
  • Of course, the US Navy recruiter was available and ready to talk
  • I was underage at age 17, a ward of the state, but Massachusetts agreed to let me enter the US Navy
  • I was able to get into the Navy with an 8th-grade education because my test scores were high enough to qualify for A school electrical studies and field of service
  • Boot camp wasn’t easy for me as I was used to being in control, and started on the wrong foot, but I apologized and adapted
  • I even qualified for the Drill Team and managed to keep my handicapped right foot under control
  • After A School I was assigned to the USS Forrestal (CV-59) was a supercarrier on its maiden Mediterranean  (Med) cruise
  • I excelled at everything and was a 4.0 sailor
  • After a tour of duty on the USS Forrestal, I was transferred to B School (Advanced) and failed one subject move than once, because I couldn’t stand the instructor
  • After B School, I was transferred back to A School where I was scheduled to teach the one subject that one failed in B School. Go figure!
  • I became one of the lowest-ranked and youngest instructors in the Navy
  • I learned to read and started practicing My Five book rule. 
  • If you don’t understand a subject read Five books; usually one of the authors will write the subject in a way of understanding
  • I began teaching older students with High School diplomas, but I knew my subject inside and out, better than some of the book I had read
  • Later that year, I was selected as a candidate for Instructor of the year but came in second. A story for another time and place
  • I wanted to become an Officer and started my studies, passed my GED equivalent for High School, a prerequisite for entering college-level studies
  • Completed ASBA Summa Cum Laude (a 2-year degree) after six years of study in the various colleges And later earned my BABA
  • My service record and educational achievements efforts paid off and
  • After twelve years of naval enlisted service as a Senior Chief, I was commissioned as a Chief Warrant Officer
  • I struggled with the “New” CNO’s Navy politics and policy changes and resigned from the Navy after 17 years of service to further my  studies
  • Earned my MBA (1977) and my Ph.D. (1979) Leadership and Human Behavior after 15 years of nights and weekends

So, There You Have It

  • Much of the pain is gone, but as victims, we never forget
  • No Abortion, No Self-Harm, and No Suicide
  • Everyone has a story, and many are far worse than mine
  • Many will never get a chance for survival
  • So, I count my blessings
  • If I can do it, so can You
  • Get help if you feel you need it
  • If You Feel That My Story May Be Inspiring to Others or Someone,
  • You Know, Show Your Caring and Sharing It!

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